*HOW TO LOOK AT OURSELVES AND OTHERS*
Getting to know people is very difficult. We are all different and some of the things that make people what they are, are hardest to notice. Here is a unique framework that may help you in understanding your self and seeing others in more holistic way.
The pyramid, being a very stable structure, represents a stable person. Below the person is the society that the individual came from. The brown part represents the parts of our person that are underground, and hard for others to see. This includes who we are and most of what we do, for that is at the root, but below ground in the sense that it is hard for others and ourselves to see.
Every level is build on the next, so what we do is stable when it rests on who we are. The more stable our foundations, the higher we can stack. When we get into body language and what we say, we are above ground, in the open. This is a visible part of us that is exposed in every day life. It’s easy to only focus on the above ground parts of our personality. When looking at others, it is wise though to check, if what they say and how they carry themselves checks out with what they do and ultimately who they are.
What we think and what we want actually reaches into the clouds, it gets a bit more fluffy and unsubstantiated for others to hold onto and count on and it gets a bit risky when it is not built on a solid above the table structure which itself sits on foundations that support it.
Life is complicated and people are complicated. The societies they come from carry with the a lot of history, trauma and collective karma you could say. And yet there are things we can do to build a solid life for ourselves. A lot of the things that ground us are interpersonal, it’s a matter of finding the right arrangements based on who we are.
In writing this I am aware that Who We Are is a vague concept. Nonetheless I consciously imply that finding out who we are and always remembering it, is a very worthwhile pursuit. Some of the concepts outside the pyramid may help you in your operations, and help you scale up as an individual. It may also be a crutch if you want to evaluate someone else’s claims and promises on the go.
May it serve as a reminder to sometimes look a little deeper at others, and most of all, ourselves.