Thijs came up with this piece of wisdom: Feeling can be triggered by anybody or -thing and take over control. Once you’ve noticed your feelings going out of control, everything is lost. You don’t know where you are at, and people literally say ‘you’ve lost your mind.’ Before you had everything ordered, your mind and your feelings were communicating and collaborating with one another, Like a horsemen/woman does with his horse. Let’s look this from a closer view, The horsemen made a commitment to his horse and therefore’ also the other way around, Trough speaking the right language they can communicate and are both much more than each one on his own. They become dependent on one another to be able to create what they create together ; walking their walk! They are responsible for one another and still both their own entities, respectfull to their own needs. Collaborating together fulfills their needs, separated they are both lost. Now imagine, you being the horsemen walking next to your horse, the path you are walking is clear and smooth. Suddenly there’s very low tot the ground flying over the path a giant helicopter or airplane, (like a boeing 747 or anything that’s way too big and noisy) which disrupts the harmonious walk. your horse starts to panic and flee, cause he/she reacts as it is a danger to him/her. What are you gonna do? A horsemen well connected to his/her horse will be able to calm the horse down, this connection based on trust will make the horse be just a bit nervous for a couple of seconds instead of fleeing as far as possible till he/she found him/her-self safe again. A horsemen not well connected to his/her horse will just lose his/her horse and hope it will come back soon. Eventually the horse will come back, cause it is trustful to the horsemen, if there has been build up at least a bit of trust. In other cases, we just speak about a wild horse, not to be able to handle at all. So now lets see your horse acting like your emotions do, and see the horsemen acting like your mind. think about it for a minute yourself, before reading further… If your emotions are so upset and your mind is not able to tune in on this emotions and not able to put things into the right perspective, your emotions are gonna run off with you like the wild horse does, and since only both can be complete together, you’re mind is gonna be gone too. You reached the point of acting out of your mind and like you don’t know about emotions, You reached the state of hurting yourself or anybody, you forgot it all in one ‘blink’. Try to make a good connection between your mind and your emotions, make them be good friends that can talk to one another, feel what your emotions do with you and use your common sense to put them into the right perspective and bring them into this world you’re living in. This way you are able to walk your path together with your horse, whatever happens harmoniously and steady, respectful to one another and responsible for one another. So also your mind/horsemen can find comfort (warmth, company, joy, direction, rest,…) and rely on you’re emotions/horse, when there’s need to. And so we walk our walk, with one another…. little steps… little steps… slowly but steady…. little steps… little steps… slowly but steady…. Enjoy this discovery in yourself, it’s great fun! Remember that there is no control but there is commitment! Remember that this way you can feel yourself and act in a way of love and respect towards yourself and others by deciding what‘s really good for you. Remember that you need a healthy portion of discipline for this to create this commitment within yourself and also with others. Remember that freedom is responsibility. with love, Thijs