Newsletter Week 4 2021

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2021 – week 4

Upside down = instead of announcing what we plan to do
(& most often find out we do not need to do), we relate what we really did

Building communities of trust is fundamental
to healing our collective wound.
At Plukrijp, we offer spaces of transparency and solidarity.
The community allows people to encounter each other
in truth and so develop trust.
We do the garden for YOU
Plukrijp functions on your frequent visits & harvests. Take along for friends & neighbours, this way we recreate real networks between us all, breaking down the illusory restrictions that now still separate many of us from our fellow man = UBUNTU.
The updated list of vegetables & fruit that can be harvested this week is available on our website under the heading “Current Harvest” :
This week @ Plukrijp
Time flies in 2021: already in the third week of Januari & still no real winter though we had snow 1 (one!) afternoon. Of course we made a snow-man that melted like a coward the day after. The high temperatures are waking up deep longings for seeding & planting in Frank, so he started planning the 2021 season. Now enough rain has fallen on the plots where we scratched in our (250m³!) top quality compost.
We did:

We seeded peas for spring harvest: snow peas in the big glass house, normal peas in the center line of the 4 tunnels.


Lots of welding & welding lessons from Antonio & Anthony at Hei to build the foundation for our future water collector/storage place.


We started the building of 2 trailers from the wheels/frames of 2 caravans with 2 garage

doors. They will serve for transporting of plants & harvest to Hei. Protecting weak young plants by moving often is a matter of harvest or no harvest in these new unpredictable springs.


The 3 month job on the library was completed. The database Zotero now holds the inventory of our 12.000 books, listed by subject and all the books are nicely placed on the shelves (sorted by categories and placed in alphabetical order by writer)

We shared/watched:

An evening on men’s rights initiated by Joshka, based on a TEDx (see below)


Two evenings with the documentary “unorthodox”.


A very interesting talk on mass psychology in the 2019/2020 period with Mattias Desmet.


An evening initiated by Joshka also on Robert Bly’s view on becoming adult (see text on Adulthood from the book ‘The Sibling Society’)


Interesting Movies & Documentaries


In pursuit of self-determination, a young woman leaves her ultra orthodox Jewish community in New York City to start a new life in Berlin. But just as she starts to find her own way, the past begins to catch up with her. A Netflix Original Series inspired by Deborah Feldman’s New York Times Bestselling book ‘Unorthodox’ starring Shira Haas, Jeff Wilbusch and Amit Rahav.

Anxiety and mass-psychology in the coronacrisis.

A coversation with Mattias Desmet.


Marlies Dekkers in conversation with professor clinical psychology Mattias Desmet and philosopher Ad Verbrugge about anxiety and mass-psychology in the coronacrisis.

What Representing Men in Divorce
Taught Me About Fatherhood – Marilyn York


Attorney Marilyn York owns a Men’s Rights Family Law Firm in Reno Nevada, established in 2001. She and her ten female employees focus on representing men for two reasons: 1. As her talk explains, fathers are crucial in the upbringing and development of their children; and 2. Fathers are the disadvantaged parent in family court and society and while the laws are improving, the statistics are not.


There are currently more than 17,000,000 children growing up in America without their fathers and every year this number is growing. According to the Center for Disease Control, children from fatherless homes account for 90% of homeless and runaway children; 71% of high school dropouts and 63% of youth suicides.

Inspiring Link

(in Dutch):


De Nieuwe Wereld is a collaborative online platform that brings together experts from different fields and disciplines in order to reflect on major societal changes brought about by globalization and rapid technological developments. It is an initiative of Dutch journalist Paul van Liempt, philosopher Ad Verbrugge and David van Overbeek.


De Nieuwe Wereld is produced in collaboration with VU University, Centrum Ethos and Filosofische School Nederland.

Inspiring Books

The Alchemist is a classic novel in which a boy named Santiago embarks on a journey seeking treasure in the Egyptian pyramids after having a recurring dream about it and on the way meets mentors, falls in love, and most importantly, learns the true importance of who he is and how to improve himself and focus on what really matters in life.


Top 3 Lessons:

1- You have a Personal Legend that you must follow if you want to be happy and fulfilled.

2- Your fear is holding you back more than anything else.

3- “The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.”

This book is a good inspiration to gain courage to fulfill your Personal Legend.

The Sibling Society – Robert Bly


Extract P237-240 Adulthood


What is asked of adults now is that they stop going forward, to retirement, to Costa Rica, to fortune, and turn to face the young siblings and the adolescents. One can imagine a field with the adolescents on one side of a line drawn on the earth and adults on the other side looking into their eyes. The adult in our time is asked to reach his or her hand across the line and pull the youth into adulthood. That means of course that the adults will have to decide what genuine adulthood is. If the adults do not turn and walk up to this line and pull the adolescents over, the adolescents will stay exactly where they are for another twenty or thirty years. If we don’t turn to face the young ones, their detachment machines, which are louder and more persistent than ours, will say, “I am not a part of this family,” and they will kill any real relationship with their parents. The parents have to know that.

During the paternal society, there were representatives of the adult community: highly respected grade and high school teachers, strong personalities of novels and epics, admired presidents and senators, Eleanor Roosevelts and Madame Curies, priests untouched and capable of renunciation, who drew young people over the line by their very example. But envy and the habit of ingratitude have ended all that.


The hope lies in the longing we have to be adults. If we take an interest in younger ones by helping them find a mentor, by bringing them along to conferences or other adult activities, by giving attention to young ones not in our family at all, then our own feeling of being adult will be augmented, ad adulthood might again appear to be a desirable state for many young ones.


In the sibling society, because of the enormous power of the leveling process, few adults, as we have mentioned, remain publicly visible as models. Because they are invisible, the very idea of the adult has fallen into confusion. As ordinary adults, we have to ask ourselves, in a way that people two hundred years ago did not, what an adult is. I have to ask myself what I have found out in my intermittent, poem-ridden attempts to become an adult. Someone who has succeeded better than I could name more qualities of the adult than I will, but I will offer a few.


I would say that an adult is a person not governed by what we have called the pre-oedipal wishes, the demands for immediate pleasure, comfort, and excitement. Moreover, an adult is able to organize the random emotions and events of his or her life into a memory, a rough meaning, a story.


It is an adult perception to understand that the world belongs primarily to the dead, and we only rent it from them for a little while. They created it, they wrote its literature and its songs, and they are deeply invested in how children are treated, because the children are the ones who will keep it going. The idea that each of us has the right to change everything is a deep insult to them.


The true adult is the one who has been able to preserve his or her intensities, including those intensities proper to his or her generation and creativity, so that he or she has something with which to meet the intensities of the adolescent. We could say that an adult becomes an elder when he or she preserves those intensities but adds more.


An adult is a person who, in the words of Ansari, goes out into the world “and gathers jewels of feeling for others.” Finally, the adult quality that has been the hardest for me, as a greedy person, to understand is renunciation. The older I get, the more beautiful the word renunciation seems to me. We need to re-create the adult and to honor the elder. The hope lies in our longing to be adults, and the longing for the young ones, if they know what an honorable adulthood is, to become adults as well. It’s as if all of this has to be newly invented, and the adults then have to imagine as well what an elder is, what the elder’s responsibilities are, what it takes for an adult to become a genuine elder. In this problem, the example of Native American community will be of great help.


Here is one final story-a Norwegian story. A man walking through the forest and in danger of dying from cold sees at last a house with smoke rising from the chimney. He sees a thirty-year-old man chopping wood and says to him, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” The man says, “it’s all right with me, but I am not the father of the house. You’ll have to ask my father.” He sees a seventy-year-old man standing just inside the door and says, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler and have been walking all day. Would it be possible to stay overnight in your house?” The old man says, “It’s all right with me , but I am not the father of this house. You’ll have to ask my father.” He says to this man, who looks about a hundred years old, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” The hundred-year-old says, “It’s all right with me, but I am not the father of this house. You’ll have to ask my father.” And he gestures toward the fireplace. He sees a very old man sitting in a chair near the fire. He walks over to him and says, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” In a hoarse voice this old old man says, “It’s all right with me, but I am not the father of the house. You’ll have to ask my father.” The traveler glances at the boxed-in bed, and he sees a very, very old man who seems no more than four feet tall, lying in the bed. He raises his voice and says to him, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” The little man in the bed says in a weak voice, “It’s all right with me, but I am not the father of this house. You’ll have to ask my father.” Suddenly the traveler sees a cradle standing at the foot of the bed. In it lies a very, very little man, hardly the size of a baby, lying curled in the cradle. The traveler says, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” In a voice so faint it can hardly be heard, the man in the cradle says, “It’s all right with me, but I am not the father of this house. You’ll have to ask my father.” As the traveler lifts his eyes, he sees an old hunting horn hanging on the wall, made from a sheep’s horn, curved like the new moon. He stands and walks over to it, and there he sees a tiny old man no more than six inches long with his head on a tiny pillow and a tiny wisp of white hair. The traveler says, “Pardon me, but I am a traveler who has been walking all day. Would it be possible for me to stay overnight in your house?” He puts his ear down close to the hunting horn, and the oldest old man says, “Yes.”


We know there is a Seventh Mother of the House, who is also very small. Perhaps she is far inside the womb, or sitting in the innermost cell of our body, and she gives us permission to live, to be born, to have joy. Her contribution is life. The contribution of the Seventh Father is a house. Together they grant permission from the universe for civilization.


Inspiring Quote

At 20, you are constantly worrying about what other people think of you.
At 40 you wake up and say,
‘I’m not going to give a damn what other people think anymore.’
And at 60 you realize no one is thinking about you at all.”

Shirley McLaine:“

Inspiring Music

Miles Davis – Tutu


Live in Germany:


As every morning, the abbot was sitting in meditation with his monks this morning, when the clumsy kitchen boy in the hallway dropped all the pans from his hands.

The monks were startled from their meditation and grumbled about the boy’s klutz. How dare he interfere with their meditation! Only the abbot remained undisturbed.

Later the monks asked him what his secret was. How could the abbot meditate in such a way that even the noise of the pans did not disturb his concentration?

The abbot replied: “Friends, my composure is easy to understand. Know that silence is not the absence of sound. Silence is the absence of yourself. ”

Buddhist story

Humor (?)

Raoof Hasan, a special assistant to Pakistani Prime Minister Imran Khan, said:

“If the United States saw
what the United States is doing in the United States,
the United States would invade the United States
to liberate the United States from the tyranny of the United States”

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